…and find one you love

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We are the generation where it’s becoming more enviable to be a geography teacher with a mortgage than to be an edgy artist. Stumbling through a collective quarter life crisis, battling between purpose VS pounds, many of us millennials are left asking “What the fuck am I doing with my life?”.

Back in the day, you could ignore your purpose if the pound was big enough, the perfect 4 bedroom house and 2.4 children at the end of the road was a good motivation. But with the cost of living rising and wages stagnating, is it enough to work to exist?

The voice asking “Do I enjoy this?” is getting louder in our communal lostness. As I have managed to claw my way into a position of actual job satisfaction, I wanted to share one of my “How do I work out what the fuck I want from life?” tactics.

It may work for you, it may not but if you’re feeling stuck in a rut with your job, maybe give it a go. We’re too fucking young to hate our jobs!


Step 1: Work out which of these best defines your job situation.


  1. My job is shit but I get paid loads and can disappear on holidays.
  2. I get paid shit all but my job is great and I actually love coming to work every day.
  3. My job is paid ok, it’s ok to do day to day and it’s a stepping stone towards what I want.
  4. My job is shit, the pay is shit, I literally want to burn down my office with everyone inside.
  5. My job is so fun, I get paid loads of money, my life is great, check out my great life on Instagram.

Ok so let’s imagine these on a scale of monies to enjoyment to help.



If you’re a 1-4, keep reading. If you’re a 5. Congrats you’ve won life, go away and be smug somewhere.


Step 2: Next is to work out what’s important to you.


Here are the what I define as the 6 key attributes to my version of career happiness and purpose. Everyone’s will be different but here are a few to get you going.

Define your 6 important work factors.Then take a look at each one and rate on 1-10 how close you are to being happy in each of those areas. E.g. If you were a job situ 3, you may give salary a 5 but culture 8.


Step 3: Close the gap

Why did we just do that? So, you may not know what you want to do, but now you know what is important to you. Now we can focus on closing the gap between being 10/10 on those key factors and where you are now.

I want you to think carefully about what could change to bring those numbers up towards 10.


What is it about the culture that pisses you off?
How much would be needed for you to be comfortable financially?
What skills does your work require you enjoy?


Step 4: Plot it out.

Ok, it looks geeky but stick with me guys! This little tactic made conversations with potential employers far easier AND they thought it was pretty smart. If you have a clear idea of what you want from a job when talking to potential new employers, you’re less likely to get carried away and sign up for something which is a compromise. If you’re looking to find a job you love, take 30 minutes to do this!

We’re going to make a 4 part matrix taking all the points above and mapping them to what you like, what you don’t like, what is missing and what is vital when it comes to purposeful work.

This is the main thing that helped me find the job I’m in now and the one that finally ticks all my boxes for this stage of my work life. Yes, I did keep little rambling at the top. Yes, I put money down on paper. It was important for me so I didn’t want to waste my time with was going to offer me £49 and packet of peanuts for a week’s work.


Now make your own!


Step 5: Get out there!

There are many ways to find jobs and now you have a jazzy matrix to help you think objectively about finding a new role.

I found mine through a jobs fair at Google Campus run by Unicorn Hunt.


Here are a few starters to explore….


  • Word of mouth – This is so underrated I feel but asking about can be an amazing way to find a job and find out the truth about working there. If you find a company you are interested in, there’s no harm in reaching out to someone on LinkedIn, grab a coffee and hear what it’s like to work there.
  • LinkedIn jobs – Out of the best jobs I looked at, most were on LinkedIn.
  • Get a good recruiter – Find a recruiter who is a specialist in your area. If you’re in ad-land, I recommend Major Players.
  • Unicorn Hunt – For anything techy, startup or innovation lead, they’re a winner.
  • Glass Door – Find jobs as well as reviews on the company, salary and the roles on this site.


Sum up:


So that’s all I have for you. It’s short and sweet to read but if you take the time to follow these steps it will help shape your “What the fuck is my job” thought into an “Ok I’m done being unhappy. I’m going to find this job I deserve” mentality. Are you going to give it a go? Let me know how it goes.


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